I laughed a little when I typed that! It should really be more like how I survive being a mom and maker.
I'm no expert but I don't have meltdowns anymore so I will share what I do and hopefully it will help you or prepare you for when you are a mom!
Most mothers I've met in the creative entrepreneur life became business owners because they wanted to stay home with their kids but they also wanted to contribute to the household income. I did it backwards and started my business because it had always been my dream. The kids would come later... then I found out I was pregnant 3 months after quitting my 8-5 desk job. To say I had shed some tears is an understatement.
I was just officially launching my pottery business and lots of changes in a short period of time. New "job", new baby, new house. A girl can get overwhelmed with all that change. Which leads me to tip # 1.
REST: Get off social media, turn off the tv, shut down your mind and rest. It doesn't have to be a physical nap, but that works too!
As a creative I need to be constantly stimulated, but that can crash and burn when I hit my breaking point. If I don't take time outs to rest my brain, I will get overwhelmed, I will scream at my child for the silliest thing, and I won't have the mental capacity to turn off the mom part of my brain to focus on the business/making part of my brain.
COMPARISON: This tip sort of piggy back's off of the resting from social media. There are a ton of creative business owners who are also moms that are doing amazing things and they are posting that ALL OVER ALL THEIR PLATFORMS, which is not a bad thing. But if you're in a bad place mentally, you can bet that seeing those posts does not elevate your mood.. it brings it down even more.
I was comparing myself up and down to other moms who did similar things as me and also had small children. What I wasn't doing was asking them how they were. I was creating this picture in my mind that they had it all together. Who likes to post the sad, negative, and ugly pictures on their feed? No one really. So we create a façade that makes it look like we have this blissful life but in reality those mom's were also struggling. They just weren't posting about it to the masses of Instagram. So, tip #2. Don't compare yourself, we are all on different paths and we ALL have different struggles.
HELP: You have to ask for help. You are not supermom. No one is. So don't try to be the first one to do all the things. It won't help your family and it won't help your business. Ask for help when you need it with tasks or with babysitting. Shrug off that guilt you have when you think she/he will hate you or not remember you or you'll miss everything. You won't. You will be happier and a better YOU when you pick them up. They will love you even more.
BATCH WORK: When you get your studio/creative time, batch the work you have to do instead of doing a bunch of little things. It makes me feel so much more accomplished when I batch my tasks. Throw a bunch of vessels or have a whole day to just carving lantern forms. Clay kind of lends itself to batch work but try to see where you can group your tasks together to make your work flow more efficient.
WINE: Enough said.
A lot of the above is easier said (or written) than done but I've found my groove 3 years into my business and 2 years into being a mom. It is rocky. There are tears and meltdowns from all parties. But you can find rhythm and get back into the swing of things if you examine your day to day and find areas where you may need to apply some of my tips or create your own!
If you are on the mom/maker bandwagon do you have any other tips to add? Leave a comment below so we can keep the conversation going and unite forces!